The Synchronous Converter

We learn many things growing up - some of them are useful, and some get us into
messes we can’t figure out. For many of us, the journey to healthy loving
relationships started out upside down and backwards. We learned to focus our
attention on other people before we knew and loved our own self. The truth is that
never works. There are three arenas that require our attention not just one. Those
three arenas are self, source and then others. Here is what they look like:

Self: This is your unique identity, your personality, all that you consider yourself to
be.

If you don’t know yourself as an individual what really do you have to share with
someone else? Part of the joy that occurs when we interact with others comes when
we feel that someone really “gets us.” They seem to know who we really are. We feel
understood, appreciated and accepted. This is so much more likely to happen when
we “get” ourselves first.

Source: This is your true essence - beyond your personality self.

Connection with source energy replenishes and reminds us that we are all made of
the same stuff, and that stuff is essentially good, wise and loving. Remembering this
about ourselves makes it more likely that we will recognize others as magnificent
expressions of source energy also. When we turn our attention inward and relax our
personality selves we gain access to our core essence qualities. Things like joy,
wisdom, freedom, creativity, and power exist as potentials inside all of us. These
core qualities are not unique to us, but are shared with everyone and are available
when we choose to contact them and call them forward. When we take time to know
our own source energy we are more prepared to see the same essential goodness in
others.

Others: This is where the juiciness of our human interactions takes place - with
others.

Others includes the ones who push our buttons, the ones who attract us and the
ones who repel us too. The beauty of real love is that in loving others we are
enriched ourselves. When we enjoy the personalities of others, and celebrate their
essential qualities we feel expanded and enhanced. This is so much more likely to
occur when we take the time to get right with our own selves first.

Connecting from self delights us and assures that we will have genuine connections
with others.

Connecting from source unites us, uplifts us and assures that our relationships will
not stagnate but instead with expand and grow.

Connecting with others fulfills us.

Why leave any of it out?

Peri Coeurtney Enkin lives on the Big Island of Hawaii. She is the founder of Aloha
Inspirations - A Center for Energy Counseling and Conscious Living, The Calm
Program and The Deep Listener Retreats offering Spirit-Centered Education for
Personal Renewal and an Inspired Profession. Programs include online classes in
Creating a Life that Works. Learn more at http://www.deeplistener.com and
http://www.alohainspirations.com